Awareness
Socialization
ASD is frequently referred to as a social disability. Individuals on the autism spectrum frequently experience social cues and situations differently than neurotypicals (those not on the autism spectrum). This can result in misunderstandings, hurt feelings and isolation from the social group.
Sometimes an environment that is uncomfortable due to loud noises, strange smells, or bright lights can hinder someone with ASD from focusing on the social situation and impact the individual’s ability to interact appropriately. Reading nonverbal cues are difficult for these individuals, they may not pick up on facial gestures or body nuances that show disinterest, anger, sarcasm, joking or disappointment.
This can make social situations uncomfortable and lead to some avoidance of these activities. Someone on the spectrum may find engaging in social situations that are activity-based, such as, school clubs, book club, church activity groups etc., a more comfortable experience, especially if it is centers on their special interest. Social situations that depend on small talk, such as parties, prom, happy hours may be a more difficult venue and increase anxiety.
Relational Concerns
Developing relationships outside of the nuclear family can be challenging for individuals on the Spectrum due to difficulty interpreting others intentions, nonverbal cues and limited social interactions.
Making friends in grade school, the dating scene, job interviews, interacting with coworkers can be overwhelming obstacles when social skills are lacking. Misunderstanding someone’s intent by missing the social cues can set the stage for embarrassment and feelings of rejection.
It is important to be direct and explicit in regards to what should or shouldn’t be done or said when interacting with individuals on the Spectrum. This is best done before the person is in the situation, decreasing anger, and avoiding hurt feelings and confrontations.
Navigating the social landscape
Many individuals are very blunt and straightforward and don’t anticipate that other people may have a hidden agenda. Difficulty making character judgements and identifying people who may take advantage of them can be a problem.
Frequently, individuals with ASD need assistance or support in navigating the social landscape. Support can come from a therapeutic environment or from family and friends as long as that support is caring and considerate of the person’s needs and wants.
Once clear on the parameters of the relationship and what is expected individuals with ASD can become loyal friends, dependable employees and creative problem solvers with their unique way of looking at the world.